The Problem With FWB

FWB.

Friends with Benefits. Fuck Buddies. A Hook Up.

This person in your life goes beyond a one night stand. They're a reoccuring person you can turn to when you need some making out or sex without all the strings attached to an actual romantic relationship. I'm sure that many people have had a person like this in their life at one time.

I've got one now. Strangely, we aren't really even friends yet having met in the online mecca of dating websites. We talked about a week, I went to his house, we did the deed, talked a while, and I went home. It was the best sex I've ever had, to be honest. And the fact that I got to go home to my own bed, sleep all night and wake up refreshed was wonderful. All the glow of sex without any of the head ache of the morning after weirdness.

But then the problem comes in. Do you text? Call? Email? Say nothing? Lucky for me, my guy contacted me the next day straight away. Good to rehash that we both had an excellent time and when could we maybe get together again. And the next day came and we were both busy and then the next day with nothing. And I began to wonder...is he really into me?

And then all the stupid "girl" questions started running through my head. Did he like it? Did he like ME? Was I sexy enough? Is he going to make an effort to see me again? Should I text him? Why doesn't he text me? Is this going somewhere?

And shit, if I didn't place my FWB guy into the same relationship peg as every other guy. And I mentally had to decide that no, I don't want that. I truly don't want a traditional relationship with this guy. It would never work. We both know that, but find the other interested and attractive so.... We're both consenting adults.

So, what's the problem?

Is it because I'm a Scorpio and prone to possessiveness and jealous rages? Is it because I've been cheated on and don't want to feel betrayed again by anybody? Is it because casual sex doesn't really exist? Or maybe I was just out of practice. I hadn't had a FWB in 15 years, and looking back at that guy, I didn't do so well staying casual with him either. Maybe I am truly not capable of being casual about things. Am I just too intense?

So, this blog posts resolves nothing. I have had these questions and thoughts running through my head all day today. Maybe I really do need to just turn down my cell, read my book and get a good night's sleep. After all, I'm not in a relationship with this guy and I have my whole entire life to live.

I realized today that I was much happier before I started trying to make myself happy and fulfill some desires I have.

PS: This article clears it up...Friend With Benefits or Something Else?